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morning thoughts of sex…

September 11, 2010 at 4:02 pm (Uncategorized)

I know sex is a key piece in this Awakening into Consciousness.

I know it is fundamental to the re-weaving, re-creating, re-dreaming at hand.

In the past I have spoken of the powerful, unstoppable ENERGY that it is. How it can literally become a ‘possession’, something that can blindside us and take us out, having us engage in ways that leave us with a familiar empty feeling… or vulnerable… or needy… or open to shame.

This morning, lying in bed, I watch a familiar, persistent train of thoughts meander through my psyche; ‘Who am I to think I can explore and teach the sexual frontier? It’s so much easier to leave well-enough alone rather than stir the waters, especially around sex for god’s sake!’ Lying there this morning, another piece of the puzzle fell out of the sky and into place.

Yes. Sex a KEY piece because, in my experience it has and continues to push me, to bring me to places where I am vulnerable and get triggered and can go unconscious, where I want to push away or retreat, where thoughts such as the ones above and thoughts that are out of sync with my heart and my Spirit and the Divine Sacred Feminine can come hard and fast, but also because, WOW, let’s face it, it is something pretty much all of us engage in. Right? I mean… we engage… or want to engage… in whatever way, we all ‘do’ it! It is an intrinsic and inescapable part of being human. As such, how do we do it? What is and has been our way? As with any force as powerful as this, it can be abused, or not. Curse or blessing….

Recently I wrote: “As he (my twelve year old son, Lux) traverses into teenage-hood, as sex becomes more age appropriate and society gives its permission to let that energy be expressed, it simmers within him with all the shame and taboo that has ever been attached. To know he is, even in the energy of sex, Sacred, to know that a woman, even in the energy of sex is Sacred, that sex itself is Sacred, is simply not in the mix of experience.”

And now… I realize what I should have said is, “To know he is, ESPECIALLY in the energy of sex, Sacred, to know that a woman, ESPECIALLY in the energy of sex is Sacred, that sex itself is Sacred…”. If we acknowledge and ALLOW and approach sexual energy as Sacred, if it is no longer throw away, engaged with as a last minute thought at the end of the day or because of some urge that takes hold in the back seat of some car, if we break the old, insistent habits and go forth in the light of full consciousness and full awareness where it is honored as the sacred expression that TRULY it is, us and our partners mirrors and expressions of the Sacred, recognizing all the ways sexual energy feeds and delights body, spirit and soul, then we take the act of sex out of the mundane and even derogatory levels of existence, where it is associated with bestial function or bodily urges, and transport it into the Sacred Container of Spiritual Practice. When we do that, alchemy happens. When we do that, this vibrant, vitalizing, electrical force can be the portal to visceral experience of the DIVINE that it has the potential to be.

Sex a gateway to the Divine. Who would have thought?!??! Something that we all do or think of doing or want to do… and the question is, ‘how do you do it?’ It’s just like my friend David Elliott says, ‘How you do anything, is how you do everything.’

What I do know is, to engage in sexual energy in the full light of consciousness, we need tools in our Spiritual Toolbelt and witnessing and sharing and a whole lotta Love in order to bring it out of the Shadow where it has been for so long.

My own personal recipe… my spiritual cocktail?… Oodles of Awareness, a bunch of Breath and more than a sprinkling of Tantra.